Safe space. Real connections.
GrindHer is built on the belief that you should never have to choose between finding love and feeling safe. Every feature we build starts with your protection in mind.
How we protect you
Safety built in, not bolted on
Photo verification
Optional selfie verification confirms profiles are real people — so you know exactly who you're talking to before you match.
Block & report
One tap to block or report anyone. Our moderation team reviews every report and takes action fast — usually within hours.
Incognito mode
Browse profiles without being seen. You control who sees you and when — perfect for when you're not quite ready.
Location privacy
We never share your exact location. Matches see approximate distance only — your address stays yours.
Message filtering
AI-powered filters catch inappropriate messages before they reach you. You set the sensitivity — we do the work.
24/7 moderation
A dedicated team of human moderators — many of them queer women themselves — reviews reports around the clock.
Average report response time
Reports reviewed by humans
Tolerance for hate speech
Community guidelines
The rules are simple: be real, be kind.
GrindHer is a space built on respect. These guidelines exist to protect every member of our community.
Be who you say you are
Use real photos and honest information. Catfishing, impersonation, and fake profiles are grounds for immediate removal.
Respect boundaries
Take no for an answer. Harassment, unsolicited explicit content, and persistent unwanted contact will not be tolerated.
Keep it legal
No minors, no illegal activity, no content that violates the law. We cooperate fully with law enforcement when required.
No hate, ever
Racism, transphobia, biphobia, fatphobia, ableism, and all forms of discrimination are banned. Full stop.
Protect privacy
Don't share other members' personal information, screenshots of private conversations, or content without consent.
Report, don't retaliate
If someone breaks the rules, report them. Don't engage, escalate, or retaliate — let our team handle it.
Our commitment
We hold ourselves accountable
Safety isn't a feature — it's a promise. We publish transparency reports, maintain a clear appeals process, and actively seek community feedback on our policies. If we get something wrong, we want to know.
Need help?
You're not alone
If you're experiencing harassment, feel unsafe, or need support, we're here. You can also reach out to these trusted organizations.
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